saying my good bye's
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RE: saying my good bye's
MB/Techman
I've been lurking around this thread for a while and here goes.
Everyone needs some form of entertainment, for some of us it's these forums, Sunday Football games, golf on TV, etc., for others it's addictive behaviors or worse. All forms of entertainment CAN become a problem. YOU know if playing on the computer is. Try to sit back and take an objective look at your behavior. Log your time on line. Examine what others see in you. You may find it educational and it will give you power. Power? Yes, because having your wife's perspective and understanding of this issue allows you to have the upper hand on a solution without just giving in.
My experiences have taught me that we have to balance our own play time with the needs or desires of our loved ones. Perhaps you wife is feeling like she is competing with the internet for attention and feels hurt, even if she won't admit that to you. I know you have done this before but...You may try finding another activity you both can do so she feels more included in your life. Then she will be happy to let you play more on your own. What have you got to lose? This has gone a long way for me.
All people really want is to be loved and paid attention to...and buy sh%t to play with.[sm=bling.gif]
If you let someone else dictate their terms to you, you will pull away making the relationship worse. We are all like that. Let her know you understand that! ASK her what the real issue is. Please let me know if I am close.
Good luck! Drew
PS: It is possible though that your relationship is not worth saving. This process will tell you that also.
I've been lurking around this thread for a while and here goes.
Everyone needs some form of entertainment, for some of us it's these forums, Sunday Football games, golf on TV, etc., for others it's addictive behaviors or worse. All forms of entertainment CAN become a problem. YOU know if playing on the computer is. Try to sit back and take an objective look at your behavior. Log your time on line. Examine what others see in you. You may find it educational and it will give you power. Power? Yes, because having your wife's perspective and understanding of this issue allows you to have the upper hand on a solution without just giving in.
My experiences have taught me that we have to balance our own play time with the needs or desires of our loved ones. Perhaps you wife is feeling like she is competing with the internet for attention and feels hurt, even if she won't admit that to you. I know you have done this before but...You may try finding another activity you both can do so she feels more included in your life. Then she will be happy to let you play more on your own. What have you got to lose? This has gone a long way for me.
All people really want is to be loved and paid attention to...and buy sh%t to play with.[sm=bling.gif]
If you let someone else dictate their terms to you, you will pull away making the relationship worse. We are all like that. Let her know you understand that! ASK her what the real issue is. Please let me know if I am close.
Good luck! Drew
PS: It is possible though that your relationship is not worth saving. This process will tell you that also.
Joined: Dec 2004
Posts: 219
From: New Zealand
RE: saying my good bye's
www.benzcounciling.com
Thank you for the read, and honesty so far. This is very interesting.
On a random side note-
I find it interesting now being a member on this mercedes forum......
i mean before i owned my car i had a honda and went to all the honda forums, and alot of ppl who are on those forums are idiots...period.
And on this forum and club202 etc everyone has steped up the conversation level as most ppl who own benz are very intelegant people who have very interesting things to say.
image this post on any other forum youd have every other idiot posting crap
( did i just describe myself :-) )
Thank you for the read, and honesty so far. This is very interesting.
On a random side note-
I find it interesting now being a member on this mercedes forum......
i mean before i owned my car i had a honda and went to all the honda forums, and alot of ppl who are on those forums are idiots...period.
And on this forum and club202 etc everyone has steped up the conversation level as most ppl who own benz are very intelegant people who have very interesting things to say.
image this post on any other forum youd have every other idiot posting crap
( did i just describe myself :-) )
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Joined: May 2004
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From: CHICOPEE
RE: saying my good bye's
Why would I want to do that? Serves no purpose, to me, but would to her. I did asked her as part of the settlment to change her name back to her "maiden" name. As my father's family has been in this country over 140 years and I don't want is tarnished by her. I can make her, but this is important to me.
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RE: saying my good bye's
ORIGINAL: BikerDrew
MB/Techman
I've been lurking around this thread for a while and here goes.
Everyone needs some form of entertainment, for some of us it's these forums, Sunday Football games, golf on TV, etc., for others it's addictive behaviors or worse. All forms of entertainment CAN become a problem. YOU know if playing on the computer is. Try to sit back and take an objective look at your behavior. Log your time on line. Examine what others see in you. You may find it educational and it will give you power. Power? Yes, because having your wife's perspective and understanding of this issue allows you to have the upper hand on a solution without just giving in.
My experiences have taught me that we have to balance our own play time with the needs or desires of our loved ones. Perhaps you wife is feeling like she is competing with the internet for attention and feels hurt, even if she won't admit that to you. I know you have done this before but...You may try finding another activity you both can do so she feels more included in your life. Then she will be happy to let you play more on your own. What have you got to lose? This has gone a long way for me.
All people really want is to be loved and paid attention to...and buy sh%t to play with.[sm=bling.gif]
If you let someone else dictate their terms to you, you will pull away making the relationship worse. We are all like that. Let her know you understand that! ASK her what the real issue is. Please let me know if I am close.
Good luck! Drew
PS: It is possible though that your relationship is not worth saving. This process will tell you that also.
MB/Techman
I've been lurking around this thread for a while and here goes.
Everyone needs some form of entertainment, for some of us it's these forums, Sunday Football games, golf on TV, etc., for others it's addictive behaviors or worse. All forms of entertainment CAN become a problem. YOU know if playing on the computer is. Try to sit back and take an objective look at your behavior. Log your time on line. Examine what others see in you. You may find it educational and it will give you power. Power? Yes, because having your wife's perspective and understanding of this issue allows you to have the upper hand on a solution without just giving in.
My experiences have taught me that we have to balance our own play time with the needs or desires of our loved ones. Perhaps you wife is feeling like she is competing with the internet for attention and feels hurt, even if she won't admit that to you. I know you have done this before but...You may try finding another activity you both can do so she feels more included in your life. Then she will be happy to let you play more on your own. What have you got to lose? This has gone a long way for me.
All people really want is to be loved and paid attention to...and buy sh%t to play with.[sm=bling.gif]
If you let someone else dictate their terms to you, you will pull away making the relationship worse. We are all like that. Let her know you understand that! ASK her what the real issue is. Please let me know if I am close.
Good luck! Drew
PS: It is possible though that your relationship is not worth saving. This process will tell you that also.
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Joined: Feb 2005
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RE: saying my good bye's
MB
Good luck with your issues! Life IS too short to sit around getting fat. Enjoy your trip. It is the perfect opportunity to find out more about your wife and yourself.
Thanks for the compliment.[sm=guilty.gif] Perhaps I should open a relationship counseling forum. My background includes a psychology education. [sm=badidea.gif]
Good luck with your issues! Life IS too short to sit around getting fat. Enjoy your trip. It is the perfect opportunity to find out more about your wife and yourself.
Thanks for the compliment.[sm=guilty.gif] Perhaps I should open a relationship counseling forum. My background includes a psychology education. [sm=badidea.gif]
